Self-Mastery

I have been using my blogs for years to share what I’ve been learning to help others as they progress on their spiritual paths.

Now I need help from my readers.

Several years ago, God gave me a vision of me working with people in prison. I have dreamt this image, seen it pop into my consciousness and leave just as quickly. I had this vision even before I became a Certified Spiritual Life Coach…before I knew how to help people.

In going through the course I teach now, I know the power of changing one’s core foundational beliefs and how impactful releasing repressed emotions can be on one’s life. I also know that those who have been hurt the most…typically project that pain out onto others and this can have dire personal and legal consequences.

I have been volunteering an evening a week teaching computer skills at a women’s outreach center. Many of these are battered women or women coming out of prison working to make a better life for themselves.

In talking more with this organization, I have also found another organization here that works directly with people coming out of prison with the mission of helping them re-enter society and prevent recidivism.

I found out that approximately 70% of people who have been in prison commit another crime and return.

I volunteer 3 mornings a week to this organization.

Both of these organizations understand the importance of what I do, but neither are funded for it.

I know that the course I teach results in permanent behavioral change.

The only limit to its success is in the individual’s ability to stick with the course and complete it. It peels away the layers of fear based beliefs that people created to protect themselves when they were children, teaches them how to let go of those beliefs, how to holistically forgive and how to replace their self-limiting thoughts with empowering beliefs that will then create the reality they want.

I have looked through State and Federal Grants and cannot find anything to support what it is that I do. I know that in many ways, what I do is ahead of the curve some, but I also believe that God has me in this place for a reason and that if I just ask…help is available.

I know I can make a difference with these people. Perhaps at first, it will only be one or two…but as people heal their inner demons, they will be able to take the methods I am teaching them and create a different life for themselves.

I simply need to be able to make a living doing this…and I don’t know how.

So this is a prayer for help. Since I know everyone else in the world is “God in drag,” then this is a prayer to God.

I have followed the directions. I can see the task clearly before me. I can help anyone who seeks it.

How do I make a living at it?

I trust that there is an answer I cannot yet see and I am going to continue to do the work until the money shows up…but if there is help available…I’m open to that too.

Namaste

Jeff

What if you could create the reality you wanted easily and effortlessly?

As I wrote yesterday, many of our problems stay in place because we have identified ourselves with those problems. Many of us that may have been raised in modest surroundings may feel uncomfortable to rise above that level of success or abundance because we have identified ourselves with the idea of being “poor” or “working class” or “blue collar.”

Many of us suffer with different ailments and dis-eases. As someone who has lived with health issues in my life, my mind looked for evidence as to why these things happened to me, what was wrong with my body, what could have been passed down genetically…and all were a continuing identification with the problem.

It was when I stopped looking for why the problem was there and started focusing on being healthy that my problems healed.

So what if there really is no such thing as a genetically transmitted disease? Bear with me a moment here.

Since we know everything is energy and that our beliefs and feelings are also energy…what if genetic markers are really physical representations of how we deal with problems?

So what I mean by this is let’s say we have a family that has a history of heart disease. There could be many factors that play into that. Some of it will likely be the types of foods that they eat, but could it also tie into their family history of emotional patterns; how they deal with anger, sadness, hurt and shame.

I learned a few years ago that most of my life I had never really fully felt my feelings. I had thought about why I should feel or should not feel this or that, but I hadn’t simply allowed myself to fully feel them.

In coaching clients, I have found that both men and women from all different countries and cultures have been discouraged and even punished for feeling and/or expressing their emotions.

When we repress our angry feelings, we tend to blame others for their actions. If we simply blame another person, this disempowers us. If we blame another for how they are showing up in our lives, we are denying that our world, our reality is our creation. If we just allow ourselves to feel our feelings and process them fully, then we can look at what happened with a different perspective. We can decide that perhaps we want to be treated with more respect and we create that through the veil.

When we repress our shame, we feel guilty about what we did. Many cultures have traditional patterns surrounding guilt. It’s as if they have created a belief that says that they should feel guilty any time they create an experience that did not meet their intended result. Because as I’ve written before there is no such thing as sin; this was a misinterpreted translation of the Bible and sin is an archery term that simply means “to miss the mark.”

So if all we are doing here is creating experiences and based on the outcome, deciding to change “the recipe” and try again, then none of us have ever made a mistake.

It is the perception of the ego; that things are either right or wrong, good or bad…that defines a perception that there is a problem here.

So does that mean that most of the world is lost in an illusion. Yes…and this has always been so. Many teachers have come to this world to help people see this…to help people to see that they are God-like beings who can create anything they desire.

They can create it by stepping through the veil.

Within each of us is an inner world that is comprised of pure energy. Within this field of energy, we can create anything we desire. We can create healthy bodies, new sources of abundance, peaceful relationships, fulfilling uses of our time and anything else we can possibly imagine.

If we identify with our problems however, we stay stuck in where we are.

One way to step through the veil is in meditation.

Go within and imagine you are standing in front of a mirror. On the side of the mirror where you are right now, everything in your world is as you know it to be. But look at the mirror and notice that you no longer see a reflection of what is happening in your world. You simply see a veil of mist and you curiously step through the veil.

As you do so, you find yourself standing in vast softly lighted room that seems to go on forever. You notice that as you start to think a thought about something in your life, you start to see a flicker reflected back to you somewhere in that room. You think the thought again and the flicker starts to take shape. You think the thought again a few more times and you see the situation in front of you as if you were watching a 3-D movie of yourself.

You notice though that if you move away from that and start to explore other areas of the room and look back that the reflection is gone. You understand that this is a realm where the things you focus on grow stronger and as you move your focus away, it quickly dissipates.

So you decide you are going to create a visual of something you have desired. Perhaps it’s a healthy body, a happy relationship or more abundance. You imagine everything you can about this new situation. You watch it as it starts to take shape in front of you, little bits of light pulling together out of thin air. You watch it as it takes shape into another movie, this time about what you want instead of something that has already been happening.

You watch the movie a couple of times and in it, you see some things that you want to change, so you just do it there. You just think a new thought about what you want to see differently. You are the director and the actor here so you can change anything you want.

Then you step back and watch it all again. You feel the emotions as you watch yourself moving through each experience.

Then you let it start over from the beginning, watching it, feeling it and starting to feel as if it is really you moving through those experiences. You feel the joy and excitement of living out your dreams.

After you feel you have soaked in all the joy you can, you turn and walk back towards the mirror you came through and before you step through, you see the world outside of it just as you see the world on this side.

Both are your creation.

And you realize that you have a choice. You can choose to identify yourself with anything you desire or you can choose to continue to live out the behavioral patterns of your ancestors.

You can choose to be a human being that occasionally has a spiritual experience and live with those limitations…or you can choose to be a spiritual being living out an unlimited human experience.

You consider this thought even as you are stepping back through the mirror into your world.

Which will you choose?

What if almost everything you have ever learned about your existence in this world…were inaccurate?

Would you want to live another day in a limited experience?

What if there are no limitations to what you can create in this world?

What would you change about your life?

What would you create in your world?

Remember it is the thoughts and feelings that you consciously and unconsciously transmit out into the world that creates your reality.

If you want to create something different, choose to identify with a new version of YOU.

Namaste

Jeff Scholl

Certified Spiritual Life Coach

www.learningtoflow.com

Christ said that “when two or more are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst of them.”

This has been a foundational statement for having more than one person pray together for a desired outcome.

But how can we apply this more effectively and consistently to create our desired outcomes?

We already have learned from many, many different teachers that our beliefs create our reality and that we have the power to create our desired outcomes through the Law of Attraction.

One of the points I have written about again and again is that we are also attracting our unconscious fears through the Law of Attraction. This law is always working whether we are conscious of it or not.

And as Einstein so correctly noted, “We cannot solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it.”

So either we correct the consciousness we have that is continuing to create the same reality for us by surfacing our unconscious beliefs, releasing the negative emotions that have held them in place and create a new positive loving belief…or we bring a new consciousness to the situation.

I now realize this is how Jesus healed the sick. He didn’t have their fears, hurts or frustrations about whatever problems they had. He saw them for the perfection they were and because his frequency of vibration was so high, he was able to restore them to their ideal health through being “the witness” to that healing.

Quite often when we have people near us praying for us, they have been around us long enough to become enmeshed with our problems. This means they believe in our problems almost as much as we do…sometimes more than we do. So as long as there is consciousness holding a pattern in place, it stays in place.

I feel this is why many people who are on a spiritual or healing path separate themselves from their family because on some level of consciousness, they know that their family sees them with all these “problems.” They know they cannot heal as long as someone is continuing to remind them about all the issues they have.

So the solution we can now have is to partner with people who do not have the attachments to our problems that we do. It’s almost like a surrogate for us…a surrogate channel of God’s healing for our lives, because if we did not have a negative belief blocking it, we would not have the problem in our lives any more. God’s healing energy would flow freely into this area of our lives.

So if this is not happening, we must have a block there…a belief…trapped energy holding this in place.

My practice thus far has been in identifying these blocks, releasing them and implementing a belief that supported God’s energy to be able to come into that place.

It is my understanding though that many of the energy healing modalities already operate with “the witness” observer such as Theta Healing, Quantum Touch Healing and Galactic Healing.

But as I’m writing this, I am seeing many options for what it is that I do and how people can work alone that can benefit from using the Witness in a conscious manner.

First - how you can use this alone. If you know of an area you want to improve in your life, let’s start there.

Most people are far more aware of what’s going on in their lives that is what they don’t want and one of the main reasons it continues to show up for us is that we keep our focus on what we don’t want.

So as Joe Vitale taught me, “just flip it.” Flip the situation into what you do want.

I’ve found that it really helps to write it all down. Write out your desired situation as if it already existed today.

This is a practice I have my clients do often. It’s called a “See, Hear and Feel.”

I have them write out what their desired situation is and to make it as real as possible, almost like they were watching a movie of themselves. I have them write out what they see themselves doing, what they see others doing with them and what type of environment they see themselves in. 

Then I have them blend in what they hear, down to traffic sounds, birds, what people are saying to them, what they hear themselves saying to others, etc.

And then blend in how they feel…if they feel fulfilled, happy, loved, appreciated, peaceful, etc.

Then I have them practice this new reality by reading it aloud, recording it and some other programming methods to imprint this into their mind. 

Sometimes that works really well for people. Sometimes they have a negative belief or feeling that this can’t happen and no matter how hard they try, they cannot detach themselves from it. What I have done in my practice is work with them to help them identify what this belief is and to help them to surface it. But I now believe that there is a faster way.

I believe that the person can transcend their beliefs entirely.

This is where the Witness comes in and while I can do this as a coach, you can do this with anyone, but I feel it will work better with people who do not know you. People that know you are going to be somewhat enmeshed with your projected reality…and they may have doubts about whether or not they can see this happening for you if they do not know how to do this for themselves. However, I do believe that with the right mesh of people, this will work.

Read to them your See, Hear and Feel. Have them imagine your desired reality just like they were watching it in a movie. Their only role is to feel good for you, to feel happy that you are happy and living out your dream.

We can all do this for each other.

As a coach, I know I can do this for my clients because I am already detached from their problems. I know that they are simply projecting out an illusion out onto the world based on the complex set of energies they have held onto in their lives.

I already help my clients to identify these beliefs and feelings in their lives. I have not realized though that I could be their witness and help them to heal faster.

I am also starting to partner with Energy Healers and now see a way to work synergistically with what they do to help people heal faster.

I feel that being the Witness for another, being detached and wanting them to feel happy, peaceful and joyful in their lives is an act of Unconditional Love. I feel that the more of us that experience this…not just healers and coaches, the faster than we can transform the world we are living in.

It is possible for us all to live in our “heaven on earth.” There is unlimited abundance available to each of us. There is unlimited love, happiness and peace available in this world. If we are to create this, we can move beyond just creating it for ourselves…and help another to create that.

This is the feeling that makes community service so wonderful. When we serve a cause greater than our own, we are giving Unconditional Love to another.

So here is another way to give that, another way to BE that. I feel that once we give enough Unconditional Love to strangers, that we will have enough within us to give to others that are closer to us. We will feel the JOY of being the Witness for another.

And others will do the same for us.

I encourage you to find ways to do this for others.

Create groups where no one knows anyone or does not know them well enough to be enmeshed with each others realities and just BE the witness for each other.

Can you imagine what we can create if we do that for each other? If ten people get into a group, one person reads their desired reality and ten people just imagine being happy for someone else and seeing that in their minds?

The power that goes out into the Universe will be powerful and transformative…so be very careful about what you wish for.

Namaste

Jeff

In my last post, I touched on the dissatisfaction of the ego…this idea of never having enough.

We cannot just simply blame corporations or our government for acting in these ways. They are simply a reflection of our collective consciousness. We can argue with our community leaders and decry the gluttonous ways of big business, but the more we focus on what is wrong with our free marketplace and government SOP, the more problems we will see.

If we are to effect change in these areas, we must individually and then collectively journey within to find what it is we seek.

In my work as a coach, what I have found with every client I work with…as is with myself, what we seek is a feeling. We all seek a feeling of safety/security, of love, of peace, of fulfillment and of joy.

Yet we seek these things externally. We have become a consumer driven materialistic society. We buy something and we get a temporary feeling of satisfaction from buying that thing. But then the feeling goes away, so we go out and buy another thing…or a bigger thing. I believe that the search for these feelings is how we ended up driving houses down the freeway with a word like “Hummer” or “Expedition” stamped on the back instead of vehicles that just quickly and efficiently move us from one place to another.

And I am one of those people who used to have one of these large vehicles. I realized at one point that I had too large of a vehicle to park in most places. That and having a magnet on the back advertising that I used “Clean Energy” seemed like a oxymoron.

We also seek to get these feelings by the over use of food, alcohol, drugs and sex. Some people get this feeling by having to be right all of the time, using sarcasm or controlling/manipulating others. And while we get that temporary feeling of satisfaction, it fades quickly and we are left feeling empty. So we start the cycle again.

We use our jobs and our relationships to try to meet these needs and if we cannot get our needs met from someone else, we blame them, say that they’re the wrong person. I just need to find “Mr. or Mrs. Right.”

And we never understand that all of these situations are our mirror. It would be like going over to the mirror and yelling at it for having the wrong shirt or blouse on today. What we see in our reality is much like that mirror, except what we are seeing is a reflection of the energy we have been sending out into the world.

The problem is that most of us have no idea what signals we are sending out. Since psychologists have proven that over 90% of our beliefs are unconscious to us and that about 80% of those beliefs are fear based, we must understand that we are transmitting these vibrations out into the world.

If we want our world to change, we can spend a long time trying to change the world…or a relatively short time making the necessary changes within.

Many of us are making these changes. We are examining our beliefs. We are starting to understand how we are creating either abundance or scarcity in our lives. And it doesn’t matter if that abundance is of love, peace, money or success. If we believe that we can’t have or we don’t deserve, we act and react in fearful ways. We cannot give away that which we don’t believe we have.

When we heal our fear and pain, we find that Love, Peace and Abundance has been waiting for us…for each of us and we are free from needing to get our “fix” in the outer world.

We find that we care much more about “How can I serve others?” rather than “What can I get?”

And we find life isn’t quite as serious as we’ve made it out to be.

So how are you changing your thoughts and beliefs?

What have you learned in the process of examining how you have created abundance or scarcity in your life?

How are you changing the rules in the game?

What results have you had?

Namaste

Jeff

www.learningtoflow.com

In looking at our economic “crisis” that we are having today, a question we have to ask is how did we get here? I’m not talking about who did what or looking to point fingers. I am talking about the deeper motivations that guide us to do anything we do in our lives.

For anything we do, we are seeking to meet some need…typically a need we feel within us.

One element that I believe is at cause here is that our ego is never satisfied. For the ego, there is never enough.

I worked in the corporate world long enough to understand that from a corporation’s perspective, no amount of profit is ever enough. It does not matter how many billions of dollars were made, how much the stock went up, how high the dividends were to investors…it is never enough.

When they felt they couldn’t give any more to their investors, they started paying their executive team outrageous salaries. The disparity between what the senior executives made in salary and bonuses and what the people who actually did the work grew substantially.

I also watched as the Fortune 100 company I worked for and their competitors made decisions primarily on what would drive the stock price up. It did not matter to them what the financial ramifications were for anyone who was affected by these decisions.

Many companies in this country have become so intent on making more and more money that they have exported jobs to other countries. They have taken jobs that supported American families and moved them to countries where they could pay a fraction of the wage they were paying.

And what they have not realized is that for every job they have moved to China or Taiwan or Mexico, they have taken that money out of the job market here. They still want Americans to buy their products, but they are not willing to invest in America to do that.

That is one element of a scarcity consciousness. It is a statement to the Universe of “I do not have enough.”

Since as spiritually awakened individuals, we all understand that our beliefs create our reality, then we can easily understand that we have the economic crisis that we do because too many companies have sent out a vibration of insufficiency…and so now we are seeing that reflected back to us.

But spiritually awakened people also know that there is limitless supply in the Universe.

If we are to change the reflection we are seeing in the Universe, we must first do it in our own lives. We must change our vibration to send out a different signal to the Universe.

As we change our individual signals, because we are all connected…we help raise the vibration of the collective consciousness.

We must realize that the government is not going to be able to save us. If we are going to change our world to make it what we want it to be, we must empower ourselves!

We must make changes in our own lives in order to effect changes in our economy. We may drastically change the way the economy works…but change = growth.

If we are going to effect real change, we can do that from the ground up. We do not have to wait for change to happen from the top down. It is obvious that they do not know how to resolve this situation because their solution is to keep throwing more and more money at it…and while they know…just like we know that solution will not work, they know of nothing else to do.

So here is where I turn the discussion over to you.

What can we do as individuals, businesses, workers, buyers, etc to change our economic situation and to start creating an Abundance Consciousness?

The most important change happens within us. It can be a decision that we are going to share our ideas with the world. It may be a belief that we have something to contribute to this discussion…that may turn out to be a game-changer.

We all are part of a beautiful living mosaic…and if we all do our part, our world will also work beautifully.

What do you have to contribute?

Be willing to fail. Be willing to share something that may not be the perfect idea…but may spark something in someone else and the combination will be an ideal solution.

Take a chance!

Namaste

Jeff

Many people feel uncertain about starting something like Spiritual Life Coaching because they simply don’t understand how it works, how much it costs and most importantly what the benefits of this modality are.

So I’m going to explain that today.

The first thing to understand is that with the exception of seminars and workshops, all of my coaching is done over the phone. I literally have clients all over the country that I have never met, but for whom I have deep personal feelings because of the emotional bond we have created.

Everything is done via telesession…even if I have clients that live in the same area. I have been through the same process I am now teaching and have also experienced traditional counseling.

With traditional counseling, I had to go to someone’s office and no matter how neutral I wanted to be, my mind was evaluating things from the time I walked in the door. I analyzed how nice the office was, how many certificates the therapist had on her walls, how organized she seemed to be…so much of it having nothing to do with her being able to help me work through my issues.

I also was conscious to how I looked the days I went to her office, did I spill coffee on me that morning…fighting traffic on the way there, was I going to be late…all extra thoughts and emotions that I carried into session with me, but had no relation to what I was actually there to do.

So I use telesessions and they eliminate any judgments the client could have about me or themselves. There is no traffic to fight, no gas to buy, nothing but the vibrational connection between a client and their coach as they work together.

I use a spiritual textbook in all of my work called “ Self-Mastery: A Journey Home to Your Self.”

Imagine a person spending twenty-five years collecting and organizing spiritual teachings and truths into a textbook to create a step-by-step process to help a person make the shift from intellectual knowing (enlightenment) to actually being able to apply that knowledge as the conscious creator of their lives (empowerment).

This is what my teacher spent the last 25 years doing.

If you have been a spiritual sampler for very long, you will recognize much of the work by authors such as Deepak Chopra, Caroline Myss, Ram Dass, Pema Chodron, A Course in Miracles, Eckhart Tolle, Gary Zukav, Marianne Williamson and about 45 others.

This book provides the foundation of knowledge for whatever I cover with a client regardless of what their issues are.

In the first session, I take a Case History of the client and lead them through a series of questions to narrow down from a field of 80 different areas which 3 are having the most dramatic influence in their life.

Many people come away from this session (as I did) with a new sense of awareness of how much stuff they are carrying around, but have simply not been aware of it.

I facilitate the second session once the client has ordered and received their book. In this session, I give them an overview of the work…so they can feel the power of starting to be able to apply so much of what they have already learned and realize that someone has created a course to really be able to take clinically proven steps to move from that intellectual knowing to a conscious awareness of being.

Starting with this session and after every session hereafter, there is homework. Many clients are used to traditional counseling and resist doing the homework.

But this is what separates this course from being that spiritual sampler that many of us have dabbled in for so long. The homework is what helps us start to move from enlightenment to empowerment. Because without actually doing anything, what have you really changed?

If you are going to be a tennis pro, you can expect to show up to the court and study about tennis fundamentals before you ever hit a ball, but eventually you are going to hit balls and you are going to hit a lot of balls. You are going to have to show up to the court every day and spend an hour hitting balls.

So conversely if you are going to be Self-Mastered, you have to practice doing that. You will have to overcome the many excuses your ego mind will come up with for why you cannot find the 30 minutes a day required to practice the exercises you will be assigned.

The next few sessions are spent finding out what the client knows and doesn’t know about the spiritual fundamentals required on this journey. We discuss them and I ensure the client understands them before we move on. And of course, there are exercises so the client can demonstrate their understanding. In these sessions I also help the client peel away some layers on those issues we discovered in the first session so they can start to understand where they come from and how they are showing up in their lives.

About four or five sessions in when we have collected all of the information , I have one session with the client that I call “The Roadmap Session.” In this session, I show the client all of the information they have given me all in one place and lay out a plan for how we are going to work through their issues.

And then I give the client all of this information so that they have it.

So think about how many times you’ve gone to the doctor and see them writing things in their files. Do you ever wonder what they’re writing? Do you ever want to take a copy of your medical file home…or your X-rays?

This is essentially what I do. I am going to ask you a lot of questions and break down all of that information to the essence of what is really happening, show you what kinds of exercises we’re going to use to address it and then show you the plan.

What a client sees in this session is that it is not “I”, but they who have provided all of the information and that I have an action plan tailored specifically for them.

From my perspective, I use this session to get buy in and commitment to the process from the client.

But having been on the other side of the fence as well, what I saw was that my coach really knew me better than anyone should be able to know me in such a short amount of time and actually had a plan to help me work through the things that were not working in my life.

When I came to this course, I had been recently divorced. I didn’t know how to create a successful relationship. I had grown up in a family situation where my relationship models had been highly unstable and I had experienced frequent divorces. This is why I had waited until I was 32 to get married the first time. I was trying to avoid the problems my parents faced by marrying as young as they did.

I was unhappy in my job and had not been able to achieve the success I felt I was capable of. I was unsure of my current career path and was looking to find the path that was right for me.

I had serious chronic health issues.

My inability to resolve any of these life issues through traditional means led me to this course. In it, I found what I had been seeking all along and found out why certain things just kept happening again and again.

And this course changed that for me…all of it. It changed it so dramatically that I changed careers and now teach this course to others.

What follows in the series of sessions after the Roadmap Session is different for every client. It is based on what they share about their life and the obstacles that they face again and again.

In addition to the book, I have over 150 clinically proven exercises to choose from…to help each client heal their resistances initially towards realizing that they are a spiritual being having a human experience…but later to actually being able to live their lives from that perspective.

I am currently accepting new clients as many of my clients have finished the course and now have a sustainable spiritual practice…because you see, it is my role to “teach you how to fish…not to give you fish.”

So my mission is not to become anyone’s “guru” and I will never allow that to happen. That can only happen if I am giving you information and you are not doing the work. If you do the work, you will awaken to who and what you are.

What this course has done for me is quite amazing when I look back at it. I had carried blood clots in my leg for 16 years before I started this course and after letting go of so much of the pain I had carried, they simply rose to the surface and healed on their own. I have since had a sonogram that confirms this.

I found a Spiritual Relationship in which both my wife and I are in a conscious Spiritual Relationship and we are creating workshops to teach others how to apply this information in their relationships…to truly understand what relationships can do for us and how to use them to grow spiritually and emotionally.

I found my true calling in this world. I had been studying spiritual topics for 16 years before finding this course and so now in finding my dharmic purpose for living, I am able to share all that I have learned to help others heal their lives and find the answers to their questions.

What my client base tells me they experience is that they are now able to understand why certain people have come into their lives, why certain events have happened, how their perceptions of all of this has contributed to their ability to feel safe, sane and secure in the world…and ultimately how they learned to first change their perceptions and their reality as a result.

I know it almost sounds a little “pie in the sky” but this is where we are in our evolution right now. This is where all of the teachers who have spent their lives sharing this information has brought us. This is what they have been saying all along….that “we can create anything we can imagine and believe”…and that “we are gods and we know it not.”

As Marianne Williamson writes in “A Return to Love,”

 “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, ‘who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine like children do. We are meant to make manifest the glory of God within us. It’s not in some of us; It’s it all of us!

And as we let our light shine, we unconditionally give others permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.  

I hope you’ll join me on your journey into the Light of your being.

It has been proven for thousands of clients already. It can work for you.

  Cost 

Okay, so the question you may have now is: So how much does all of this cost?

The textbook costs $60 plus whatever it costs me to ship it to wherever you are.

My sessions are $100 per hour…but I only get paid for the actual time you and I are on the phone. Many of my clients email me with additional questions and as long as those emails don’t become a session in themselves, I don’t charge extra for them.

Some clients pay one session at a time. Some pay me monthly as they do with other bills.

Most clients require on average somewhere between 30 and 45 sessions to make this transition. So some clients pay for a block of sessions for 10 or 20 sessions in advance. I will not sell more than 20 sessions in advance because there is no way for me to know how quickly you will progress.

I do offer discounts for advance payments as follows:

10 sessions – 10% off

20 sessions - $15% off

I will work out a plan though for anyone who wants to do the work. I will not do it for free as this work will have infinite value in your life, but I am open to discussion.

At the point we are in our history, the most important thing is that as many people awaken to who and what they are, because we ALL have a part to play in how we collectively re-shape our world.

On a side note, I am expanding my practice right now and taking on additional partners. Learning To Flow is expanding into a Spiritual Wellness Center. This means that we will have an integral approach to our work with clients.

Please contact me with any questions.

Namaste

Jeff

For most of my life, I sought to get what I wanted in various ways. As a child, I pleaded my case for my list of toys from the Sears catalog.

As I grew older and in not having the self-confidence I needed to date, I…like many of my peers turned to alcohol. Looking back, I simply cannot believe that I started drinking alcohol regularly at 16 years old.

I expanded my experimentation to marijuana and even cocaine once…although it just didn’t do anything for me. I never was interested in anything more than that and once I joined the Navy, all drug use was off and I was back to alcohol as my “drug of choice.”

Somehow it was not only socially acceptable to be a sailor who drank…but I perceived it as an expectation. And so, like any good American sailor, I lived up to the cliché.

Somewhere along the way, I added sex to that list of addictive behaviors and then many other years later…the collection of “things.”

And yet throughout it all, I now understand that I was seeking to feel something within me. I was seeking to feel peace. I was seeking to feel love. I was seeking to feel joy and excitement for my life.

Alcohol sometimes filled this need. Sex sometimes filled it. Drugs really didn’t which is why they didn’t stick with me.

Buying things, eating junk food or just eating in general…sometimes briefly numbed out what I was really seeking. Because none of these activities really filled that need. Not really. What each of them did is that they distracted me from feeling what I was already feeling.

They distracted me from feeling bored in my life…or feeling scared…or feeling dissatisfied.

My mind would ask every once in awhile, “Is this it? Is this all that there is to life?”

It appeared to me that my parents believed that growing up, going to college, getting a good job, marrying the right girl and retiring at age 65 was the game plan that I was supposed to be shooting for.

And so I did all of that…or at least I tried to. I grew up. I went to college while I served my country. I got a good job after I got out. I married…and yet none of it seemed to work for me. It seemed to work for others, but not me.

I wasn’t satisfied with that life. I wanted more. There had to be more!

So I divorced. I went back to the bars and found that whole scene less satisfying than I did the first time.

Then after much prayer, I found a new path to what I was really seeking.

And I discovered that all along throughout all of my “fillers” what I was really seeking to feel is the feeling I feel when I feel One with God.

I feel it when I meditate and I feel it if I can halt my thinking for long enough in any given moment to just feel God’s presence within me.

And in realizing that…in that one moment, my paradigm shifted.

I no longer seek to numb out my feelings with food or alcohol. I rarely drink at all because the feeling I get when I have had alcohol is that I feel worse than I do most of the time now.

I am learning to live more simply. I find that I just don’t have this desire to just keep buying stuff and rotating things through my house.

I have found that giving of my time and skills to others is much more fulfilling for me than working in the corporate world…even though I have not shifted my paradigm yet to receive as much abundance. Still working on that one.

The key is that I no longer seek to get my needs met from things, substances or others. None of that can fulfill my needs.

I can only get the feeling I have been seeking by focusing my awareness on a feeling that I also now realize…was there all along.

Namaste

Jeff

www.learningtoflow.com

I have been studying spirituality, psychology and metaphysics for the past 18 years. I started with simple books like Norman Vincent Peale’s “The Power of Positive Thinking” and Napoleon Hill’s classic “Think and Grow Rich.”

Both books were an early indication to me that I had a hand in my destiny. It wasn’t just Fate or luck that made me a success or failure. Somehow it was my choice.

I used both books along with Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” to get me past a critical health issue. But once out of danger, I stopped using the methods as regularly.

I continued to study and read, but it wasn’t until I ran into an issue of not being able to find a competitively paying job in my field after leaving the Navy that I picked up “Think and Grow Rich” again and started practicing.

Once again, I landed a job through a seemingly miraculous series of coincidences.

But after going through a divorce, I could not figure out how to apply what I had learned to my relationships, more health issues and my overall satisfaction with life.

In 2004, I enrolled in a sort of spiritual psychology course called “Self-Mastery.”

In this course, I learned how the Law of Attraction works both consciously in the way I had used it to attract better health and jobs…but also unconsciously. I discovered that all of the feelings I had been repressing all of my life were within me. And because they were within me, they were attracting all sorts of unwanted experiences into my life.

I learned how the world is our mirror and it reflects back to us what we most need to heal and I learned that if I wanted to change what I was seeing in my world, then I had to take the responsibility to change it.

At first when I heard this, my mind told me that this meant that everything that had ever happened to me was my fault. Now that isn’t accurate, but it IS what my fear based perceptions told me.

As I progressed through this process…which I now realize is leading me on a path to Self realization in this lifetime…I went from learning to validate what happened to me as a child to feeling what I had repressed.

But the thing that kept nagging at me was to really take responsibility for what I was creating in my current reality. Because in doing so, I had to take responsibility for ALL of it and that I was simply not willing to do.

You see, I had spent over a year unearthing all of the things that happened to me in childhood for which I had repressed feelings and these feelings were now attracting experiences into my life that I wasn’t happy about. I could kind of accept that though.

Because initially I could blame my parents for doing what they did…or for not doing what I wanted them to do…and then I learned how to forgive them anyway.

But as I progressed further, I realized that throughout all of it…I perceived things on my own.

So no matter what my parents did…or didn’t do, I had a perception of what was happening and I decided what to think based on that perception. No matter what my parents told me, I still decided what to believe.

And if I accepted that, then I would have to accept that the thoughts I created as a result of my perceptions have been creating my life…all along.

I can easily see the events in my life that shaped my perceptions, but I now believe that some part of my perception, I brought into this life with me. I realized that I was not simply the product of my parents. I realized that I was a unique Divine manifestation and that if I wanted to create my life in the direction I felt my inner being guiding me to…then I had to take responsibility.

Ownership did not and does not mean that I can control all of the events in my life. It means that I can control how I choose to perceive these events.

It means that I realize that everything in my life has been perfect for my evolution.

Now that isn’t to say that I have reached that place of Self-realization. But I do know that is where I am going and I also know that my role for the next few years at least is to help as many people awaken to who and what they are. I know that the more people who heal their pain that they carry within them, the more we will all heal the world that we live in…starting with how we perceive the world.

For as Wayne Dyer says in “The Power of Intention”…”change the way you look at things…and the things you look at will change.”

Namaste

Jeff

www.learningtoflow.com

Quite often in our childhood years, we encounter situations that lead us to form the perception that who we are simply isn’t acceptable to our caretakers.

We spend most of our lives “trying to fit in,” so that we will be accepted by others. But as soon as we decide that who we are…is not enough…we start to lose ourselves. We lose the uniqueness that we know ourselves to be. We start thinking that others wouldn’t accept us if they knew the person we really were.

And yet here is something that is really interesting. When we are not being authentic, others feel it. They may not be conscious of it, but they feel it nonetheless. This phenomena happens because whether we realize it or not, we are all connected.

And because they feel it, intuitively they know when someone is not being authentic. How can they accept someone they’ve never met? How can they love someone they don’t know exists?

I faced this dilemma most of my life. I felt like as a child that every time I tried to be the joyous person that I truly was…and expressing that, I received a rebuke. As an adult, I now know that my parents simply didn’t know how to handle that joy…because as a child their own joy had been squelched. They had been taught that it was not socially acceptable to express it.

I know now that my parents didn’t know how to accept me and/or encourage my unique talents because their unique talents had never received that appreciation and support. They could only give me what they had and so they just did the best they could.

So what they taught me…was how to fit in. They wanted to fit in with others and so that is all they had to model for me on my journey as an apprentice adult. My parents taught me to care about what other people thought of me…and they unconsciously modeled it to the point where it was obvious that they worried enough about what other people thought that they never believed in their own unique talents and abilities.

In seeing these talents within my parents, I even suggested that they do that for a living and their response was something along the lines of, “oh, no one would actually pay me for doing that.”

I know I unconsciously modeled their behavior and adopted their beliefs. So while I knew I was an outgoing, sensitive and funny child; I also developed a perception that it wasn’t either safe or acceptable to be who I really was.

Everyone in my formative years seemed to require something different from me. What I felt was that I became a chameleon. I learned how to fit in with just about any type of person or group. I learned how to mirror back to the people I was with my own twist on what they were saying and doing. But again, in doing so…I lost my sense of individuality. I lost any genuine expression of my being.

I remember times where my father would make fun of me for expressing my emotions. Because I did not live in the same house as my father and because I idealized him, I desperately wanted his approval. In learning that it was not acceptable to express my emotions with and in hearing the same message from my mother, I accepted that men do not express their emotions.

There are many repercussions to bottling up one’s emotions. I have experienced many symptoms in my life. I have had issues with various addictions; food, alcohol and sexual. I did not know that what I was doing was coping. I did not understand that both the problem and the solution lay within me. I believed that the world was dictating the circumstances to which I was simply reacting.

I have also had a string of health related issues in adulthood. I have experienced depression. I have experienced loss of loved ones, jobs and divorce.

In many ways, I felt somewhat like Job. I felt like everything in my life was stripped away from me until it was just me…and God.

And in finally surrendering all that I am and all that I am not to God, I felt peace and acceptance.

I found that many of my “problems” were borne out of a core belief that somehow I was not acceptable to God…because as a child, my parents were my representational models of God. 

I feel like I developed a perception that since they didn’t accept me, God didn’t either.

That and I was being taken to church every Sunday where my grandfather was the preacher…and he kept saying over and over that we were sinners…and unacceptable to God.

But when I close my eyes, focus on my breathing and connect to God, I find only peace and acceptance. I find that the more I practice feeling this feeling, the more I feel it throughout the rest of my day.

I practice accepting myself. I am learning to appreciate my own talents and I believe that I can make a living at what comes naturally to me…writing, teaching and coaching.

In looking back at my adult life, I can see elements of each of these in the jobs I liked the most.

I can remember brief times in my life where I was happy just being me…the real me. These were the time where I was able to express myself from my heart, when I was able to be compassionate for another, when I was able to help someone believe in themselves when they had given up and when I was simply in front of a group of people helping them to see life in a new perspective.

Today, I am stringing together more and more of those moments to create a life where I feel completely at peace to just be…me.

What aspects of your life– your personality, your career, your relationships, etc…would you change if you felt comfortable to be who you really are?

What stops you from being your real Self?

Namaste

Jeff

© 2008, All rights reserved.

As I’ve written about earlier, one of the first books I started with was Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life.” Within this book is a sort of diagnostic encyclopedia for many common and even uncommon dis-eases.

What it had told me many years ago was that blood clots were the result of closing down the flow of joy within me…and I knew that to be true. I just didn’t know how to resolve that. It didn’t matter how positive I tried to think or how much I concentrated on feeling love and joy, my mind would keep returning back to the same pessimistic pattern of thinking as before.

Now that was until I learned how to do much of what I have talked about in this book. It was before I started validating (giving value) to my feelings about what had happened to me as a child. It was before I had remembered even how to feel those feelings. It was before I learned the power of Forgiveness and how amazing re-parenting my inner child could be.

Until I learned all of that, those thoughts were kind of trapped within me…bound by the very energy I wanted to change.

After reading some of the Abraham-Hicks books such as “Ask And It Is Given” and “The Art of Allowing,” I started to realize that it wasn’t just what I was thinking that was my problem. It was what I was feeling about what I was thinking that prevented me from healing.

The problem I had was that every time I started to feel, my default program told me that it wasn’t safe to feel what I was feeling or express that, so my mind shut off the feelings and either repressed, denied or avoided them.

But then I learned in Self-Mastery that feelings are a natural part of life. I learned that “processing healthy feelings can be as natural as processing healthy food. They are designed to be ingested, digested, processed and eliminated.”

But since I was taking in experiences that caused me to feel, but never actually feeling those feelings, I was unconsciously sabotaging the natural process of feeling my feelings.

As I started to apply the exercises I learned in Self-Mastery, I started having what was essentially “emotional bowel movements.”

Sometimes what that meant was that I cried for several minutes if something touched my heart. Sometimes it meant that I suddenly felt my feelings very intensely…and early on when that happened, it was scary as hell.

But over time, as my mind started to acclimate to feeling my feelings, a shift started to happen. Instead of thinking about my feelings first, I started to feel my way through my experiences first.

By doing so, I realized how much energy had been trapped within me for so long…and I realized that because most of that energy was negatively charged, it had been primarily that which had caused the various ailments in my body that the doctors could not figure out.

I started to realize that my reality was constantly mirroring back to me a reflection of the negative energy I still carried within me. So for example, if I kept having relationships that disappointed me, it was not that I just needed to find the right woman. It was that I needed to find the disappointment I carried within me and replace that with hope and optimism.

If I was experiencing pain, embarrassment and shame about my body, I found that no matter how hard I tried, I could not heal it or lose the weight that I was seeking. But once I let go of the feelings that were holding me back, I found that foods that I once enjoyed and contributed to my weight issues just no longer appealed to me. I found that if I went too long without exercising, I could feel the sluggishness within my body and I wanted to exercise. It wasn’t about looking in the mirror and having my mind tell me what I should be doing. It was about what I was now motivated to do.

In “You Can Heal Your Life,” Louise Hay documents how she was once told that she had terminal cancer and through the application of these principles, the cancer went into remission and has never returned.

I recently read a similar account by Brandon Bays called “The Journey.” For anyone that is struggling with a physical dis-ease that the doctors cannot effectively treat or explain how this happened, I highly encourage you to read her book. She has some great exercises to use that you can have someone coach you through.

I use her techniques in my own practice occasionally. It’s all essentially the same idea…just slightly different applications, but that difference can be huge for some people who have not found healing elsewhere.

I often wonder if almost all dis-ease is related to our emotional energy repressions and how much different our healthcare system would be if practitioners employed traditional Western medicine with emotional energy medicine. Each certainly have their place and we still have a long way to go.

I hope that someone reading this can benefit from what I have learned or knows someone that can benefit.

For anyone seeking a coach who understands the miracles of the physical / emotional healing phenomenon, have them contact me.

Namaste

Jeffrey L. Scholl

© 2008. All rights reserved

www.learningtoflow.com

Jeff Scholl is a Certified Spiritual Life Coach through Holistic Learning Centers and a Board Certified Holistic Health Practitioner through the American Association of Drugless Practitioners.

He graduated from Southern Illinois University with honors in 1994 receiving a Bachelor of Science in Electronic Management. Jeff is also an Honorably discharged U.S. Navy veteran serving from 1983-1992.He started his career in Spiritual Life Coaching in 2005 after a 22 year professional career in the military, electronics and telecommunications fields. J

eff spent over 11 years with a Fortune 500 company as a Senior Quality Engineer and Quality Manager before leaving to become a full time Spiritual Life Coach. He is married and lives in Fort Worth, Texas with his beautiful wife Pratima who is also a Spiritual Life Coach.